Over Protective?

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I was in a bad mood today. Firstly when I wake up in the morning I was greeted by an unhappy or grumpy face of my cousin. It seems that she doesn't want my presence in the house. I did’nt mind it at first but as the days go by I noticed that she intentionally go away when she noticed that I am around. I really don’t know why she acted that way because honestly I have nothing against her personally and also I pity her myself because she was estranged or separated from her husband. I just keep my patience since maybe she just have many problems to care about. Specially that her children was not living with her and sad to say their living conditions (her children), although some are already married were not so comfortable as well. Meaning to say most of them live in a poor and pitiful condition.

But there are times that my patience has been tested because of her indifference of me. It really hurts that a person whom you call a relative and live with in the same house (she was hired to baby sit my niece and of course she was paid on a,daily basis), would walk away when you are around as if you have a contagious disease. So one time when I was really upset and angry because of her actions, I haves to raise my voice so that that she will hear my sentiments like when if she feels that she does not like me then me either doesn't like her as well, but as my anger subside I really regret that I have said what I have said to her and I ask forgiveness from the Lord for my un christian like actions.

Then secondly, I was also upset with my  niece. I was really observing her and his boyfriend for quite some time now and realize that they have really grown close to each other as in this boy acts as if he was he was already one of the family. I mean he just goes directly inside the house of my sister (the mother of my niece) and sometimes they are alone together with my niece. But in fairness also to both of them they both assured us that they did nothing wrong or you know they wanted to finish their study first before they go into a serious relationship. Of course that is really fine, but considering the temptations now a days if we allow them to be really that close ignore the fact that this boy has grown really extra comfortable when visiting the house of my sister or when he is inside the house of his supposed to be girlfriend which is my niece. It is a fact and hope you will agree with me that almost all teenagers now a days do whatsoever they pleased and acting as if they are in control with the situation and that the big problem begins if you let them allow to do thing their way.

Maybe I am just over protective to my niece since I know her and I have followed her growth since she was a baby and observe that she has change and become hard headed. I can also blame her mom because she had done nothing about the actions of her daughter (being become really close to her boyfriend). it's as if she was afraid of his daughter. But I can understand her since her(my sister) husband works abroad and she needs companion and that is why she had second thoughts of reprimanding her daughter and face the consequences she(my niece) might become rebellious and afraid if the fact that it might leave her. 

And I feel as an uncle have also the right to discipline her and I feel that she sometimes lost respect to us because she feels that her mother would always be on her side every time we scolded her and that make her become a hard headed young lady. But then again I do understand that as a teenager they would undergo this stage of new found freedom and thinks they don't need the advises from us her elders. I just pray that someday she will understand why I am always reminding her or descipline her for her wrong doings because it is for her own good.

I would like to end this post by sharing a line attributed to mother Teresa and I learned it from  Fr. Joel O. Jason of keryma family

People are often unreasonable, irrational and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. 

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. 

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway. 

If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway. 

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway. 

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway. 

The good you do today will often be forgotten. Do good anyway. 

Give the best you have and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway. 

In the final analysis, it is between you and God. 

It was never between you and them anyway.”